Feeling unloved? Yeah, I know the feeling. Been there, had that, passed that and back again. That roller coaster feeling when you think you are not worthy of anything else or perhaps of something. As a human being, we are all governed by emotion and intellect but sometimes when these two start to mix up, it can get out of hand. There are times in your life where all you want is to be loved but it seems like no one can give you that kind of affection that you’ve always wanted not even your significant other. When you feel you’re not being loved, what comes next is your mind will begin to think you are less important. Sometimes the hardest war is when you have to battle with your own heart and it’s hard to win sometimes. When you feel unworthy, you might be dwelling in pain, pity and insecurity.
If you are not careful, that may breed hatred, vengeance and love might turn into bitterness and sorrow. Little did you know, you are in the same trap again. I guess we never learned a lesson huh? Nope, of course we can and we will. It’s just a matter of time. I guess at some point in our life we experience this kind of strong emotion and people have a different approach in dealing with this kind of matter. Our ways of dealing with things, making small or big decisions in life are more often influenced by the people that surrounds us.
The way we have been brought up, our family, friends, religion and the society will make a major impact in our life as to how we understand things and life in general. At the end of the day, you will have to decide what are you going to do with your life. Those people are only there to either guide you or ruin you. So it depends how are you going to take it. Why am I saying all this? How is this related to the topic? You have to remember that at the moment you feel unloved, you are dealing with your emotion and the faucet of your emotion is your behavior that is being processed by your mind.
Feeling unworthy and unloved
When you are in this battle, you may tend to fight back or choose to withdraw but either way, it will exhaust you because your strength is limited. Remember when I said that our body is governed by emotion and intellect? Actually, it’s not only that. There is something else and it’s more than that and that is the one who created us–GOD. When your day is perfect and fabulous, you feel like you can beat all that life can throw at you but when things go really bad, we don’t know which weapon to pick up and fight with. We get tired, restless, we feel rejected, taken for granted especially when you feel like no one seems to care, no one understands you, you are a nobody.
Suddenly you feel unloved, unpretty, unimportant, unappreciated and insecure. You will start to question the world, yourself and God. Your strength and your knowledge are limited and all these troubles had emerged because you tend to overcome all these things all by yourself. You are not perfect, none of us are. You need someone who can see all your imperfections but still loves you, someone whose promises has never been broken. Someone whose strength is limitless and whose understanding is higher than anyone else on earth— that is God. He sees you and he knows your pain. He is waiting for you to invite him in your heart.
Remember you are being Loved
God created you in his image and you are his masterpiece. He gives you life to enjoy in his presence so let God fill up your dry cup. Let God be your mirror and he will show you the reflection of your true beauty that is hidden in your eyes. He is the God of wonders and when you let God be your mirror you can see the wonders of his workmanship. The most powerful thing on earth is love but you have to know the source of it so you will not be misguided. The source of love is God. God is love and he is the lover of your soul. You cannot give what you do not have. Therefore, be gentle to yourself. Love yourself and let the love for yourself come from God and not from this earth. Only then, love will find you and rest in you.
You are loved by God
You don’t need to squeeze yourself to fit in because you do not belong to this world, you belong to God. He created you to stand out in a unique way and he loves you first even before you knew him. When you feel unloved, remember that God can love you more than anyone else in this world. If there are times you feel you are not important to that person, remember that you are God’s precious child and you are his heir. When you feel unpretty, remember that we have a God that is just. We were made in his image, that everything he created is beautiful. It’s only the standard of this world that change the view.
Guard your Heart
Guard your heart so that the pleasure of this world will not separate you from God. I know this is very challenging as a Christian but pray that the holy spirit will guide you and protect you.
Luke 6:45(NIV) 45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
Matthew 6:21(NIV) 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Proverbs 4:23(CJB) 23 For above everything else, guard your heart; for it is the source of life's consequences.
May the Lord God be your refuge and strength, a very present help in your trouble. (Psalms 46:1). My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever(Psalms 73:26). When you feel unloved, unimportant, unpretty, insecure and no one seems to care, remember to whom you belong.